Dear Abby...

So in one of my many blog searches I came across a guy in the UK that's on match. He's having some difficutly it sounds like though. So I wrote that I'd leave a post with some advice to all guys trying the online dating scene. #1) Don't wink at a girl, send an email. Write something that makes her smile and gives her something to answer back too.
Example- Hi there!! I have read that saying before and I really like it too. I really enjoyed reading your profile....you are a very beautiful woman but pictures can only take you so far. I thought your profile echoed mine quite a bit so I just thought I'd say a quick hello and we could go from there. I know I don't live in your area but I am searching outside of my comfort zone and I don't live my life by constraints especially when it comes to love....I just need to know you're open to it too =). Anyways my name is J....I was married once for 11yrs...I have been divorced for 3yrs...single for 2....I have 3 great kids that live with their mom most of the time. I have been single for a while and I'm not really into the bar scene unless it's with you...It's not really where you go but the company you're with I think. So I don't do the club-scene or the bar scene like most and I don't shop at the local 'meat markets' either....not into that at all. I'm just here looking for some[1]ne special....eventhough this is an online dating service...L.[].L....go figure!!! I just thought I'd give this a try....I've been here for 6 months....met some good friends but haven't found that one where everything just falls into place. I'm looking for someone who can be honest with me and tell me what she feels and what she wants. I am very open and honest....it's just in my nature....so it would be nice to have that in return. I'm tired of having to guess or just not-knowing....so it would be great to find my best friend and romantic partner all wrapped up in one. I value friendship especially in a relationship....I think you should always support eachother as friends. You know you can never have too many friends and lovers they come and go but friends last forever so I prefer to take the time and put forth the effort to get to know someone. Anyways ck' out my profile and see whatcha' think. If I'm not what you're looking for (I'll be crushed!!!....L.[].L....just kidding!!!)...just let me know. I hope you find the one that makes your heart happy!!!.................... I really liked this one.
Bad example - Good afternoon, I am gonna be frank with you. You sounds interesting. Your likes and dislike are almost similar as mine and I adore your pics. You are very attractive. Of course your personality to me is unknown and that is I would like to find out. I would like to hear morea about you. If you still have doubts I can tell you more about me and more pictures. Sincerely, This guy on the other hand can't type at all and never did leave his name. #2) The very next thing I see is the pic. Try to understand that this is your first impression on the girl. Make sure you're visible. Not to overdone, we want you to look better than the pic not worse. No pics with other girls! That's just dumb. #3) In the profile tell us what you like and don't like. You've got to watch the don't like though because you don't want to be negative for the first impression. Be cute, tell a joke, even if it's lame. Then kind of laugh at yourself.
Truth be told, by the time most of us end up online we have exhausted all other avenues. Most of us online are looking for that someone to spend the rest of our life with. We are done with games and want something real. So biggest advice is just be yourself. I still believe that there is someone out there for everyone. Dating is tough in any venue. The more you meet though the better chance you have of finding what you're looking for. So send an email, call her up, meet for coffee. You'll know from there if you want anymore. Good Luck!